When to Walk away......

Lately, I really haven't felt the same urge to take part in the shows anymore, and was curious when other people came to the conclusion to just walk away from the Shows.

It's been a tough battle (tougher than I thought) staying fully away from the Shows. I've curtailed my spending a lot (I think I've only tipped one performer so far this year)

I don't plan on leaving the forum or anything. I do like talking sports too much.

Just wondering how other people handle the "it's not fun anymore" moment?

Yeah, I agree. Was having this conversation just today. A lot of the girls I used to call a lot are gone. Maybe that’s a sign to move on too. Love this forum though! I’ll stick around for sure

I'm not all the way there yet. The shows have changed beyond recognition in my time, & not always for the better. I parked the shows 10 years back for various reason, one being a babe that I had called regularly left the business, who has by chance recently returned. If I'm honest, I think I was close to the walking away moment.
When I left the forum behind I got on with other stuff until the pandemic brought me back here. I re-engaged with a few members & to my surprise fitted in ok with many new faces. This forum is much more that the shows to me now, I could happily visit without any involvement with the shows.
The heydays of the shows are long gone, but I can still find enough to hold my interest, it is still fun, but a different kind of fun, despite all the gimmicks it feels like there's less variety, but let's face it, this genre is limited anyway. It feels strange to be down to just 2 babeshow companies, it's like Rangers & Celtic playing each other all the time.
It does feel like one last hurrah & I'm gonna ride this wave for a little longer. I have no concerns about how I will eventually handle the no fun moment, as I've already been there to an extent. The shows are habit forming, but it's not that hard to break the cycle.
I expect that once I finally stop interacting with the shows I will feel a bit fake being here, I will miss passing on info that I learn through the shows, taking a back seat will require a bit of adjustment, but as I've said, plenty more going on here to entertain.

I hardly call or tip babes much at all anymore.
Some of this is down to the process driven nature of the shows. Some of it is down to fakery and disreputable channel practice (BS).
Some of it is down to plain greed and self righteousness of too many babes.
It just isn't worth spending hard earned cash on them or the products they serve like it used to be. Too much screw the punters for all we can get out of them mentality.
Too much divine right mentality.
I saw through it years ago and slammed both babes and channels for the repercussions that have so inevitably come to pass.
It just isn't the same game anymore.
The only saving grace is the amount of money saved on phone bills.

But the shows are a pathetic shadow of what they used to be. The golden era ended a long time ago and it is never to return.

But I can't leave this forum.
It has been a source of cathartic relief in times of struggle and remains so.
I will remain here as long as I feel I command the remotest degree of value.

There are plenty of expensive hobbies out there to choose from. Most of them will still leave you eating grass but you'll actually have something more fulfilling than a huge phone bill to show for it.

That ia true TD

(07-04-2024 21:22 )Tumble_Drier Wrote:  There are plenty of expensive hobbies out there to choose from. Most of them will still leave you eating grass but you'll actually have something more fulfilling than a huge phone bill to show for it.

Nail on the head. I think its just reminding ourselves that the money spent is not commensurate with the pleasure received in return.

I still love this forum. So many great posters and somewhere we can have a laugh and let off steam about the channels.

I think the watershed moment will happen if XP goes bust and I feel that will be the moment probably many of us will evaluate our own personal relationship with the channels. The comments from Snooks & Boomer probably are the very same thoughts of all of us.

I've thought about transitioning from Tipper to Viewer.
Don't know if I can enjoy the shows that way.
The performers can get a bit testy with someone on their shows who isn't loaded with credits.
Not all of them, but a big part of my lack of enjoyment has been echoed by many on the forum (Mercenary performers, lack of variety, lot of Paywall)
There's a part of me that regrets spending the money I have on the shows (sure everyone feels that way after the heat of the moment wears off)

It hasn't been for naught. From being active on the shows, I broke out of my shell and like engaging with people (the forum members have been pretty welcoming)

Just, a strange part of me feels I'm more engaging than a lot of the performers, haha
Guess the Delusional part of my brain will never go away

^^ Being a viewer only is certainly a different experience, the interactive involvement obviously has many benefits, you will be treated differently by some performers & punters alike. The underlying curse of the freeloader is always there. This was highlighted for me the other day, as I entered various babes rooms with low credit, some said hello, & left it at that, one or 2 pushed a bit further asking to join them to see more. Later that evening I topped up with a view to spend on a specific babe the next day. From that point forward the mood changed many more babes perused me in a more aggressive manner. It's like when you enter some shops & are immediately asked what you are looking for, or if you need any help, & you have to politely reply "I'm just looking" Imagine if they knew how much money you were carrying or had in your bank account ? Would they push you to buy the most expensive item in the shop.
The fact that a babe can see your credit balance seems ethically wrong, should it even be legal ? It is just another tool for BS to attack punters with & that is how it is starting to feel at times. The tricks & cons have always been there from day one, but it all feels much more mercenary. Once the fakery was just that, acting out an orgasm during a call, now it's triggered by a £5 two second buzz from a toy that may or may not be inserted, activated, or even there at all. I have very little confidence in knowing who to trust in this regard.
It feels like too many babes all chasing the same pot of gold & the sense of entitlement hangs in the air like a bad smell.
Don't get me wrong, there are great examples of genuine babes, but it just feels that there are less of them. Even so they are all working in a system that is bound by deception & dishonesty. I do wonder if what seems like the ever expanding webcam industry has destabilized the babeshows as we use to know them & the experienced performers are under more pressure from so many new babes all vying for a piece of the action.